Wednesday, April 14, 2010

The Hardest question to answer

I use to think the hardest question to answer was “So, when are you two going to start a family” Everyone has their own cute way of avoiding the real answer like;
Practice makes prefect.
We are working on getting it right.
We are leaving it up to God.
All in due time.
Those kinds of answers get people to laugh or change the subject. The question I find the hardest to answer now is “Why did you get divorced?” First of all someone who is ballsie enough to come out and ask isn’t usually willing to except a flip standard subject changing answer. Honesty is the best policy, but I honestly don't know what possessed him to fill. Now that's a lie. I have the parting words, the reasons he from months of therapy together. I just don't like how they sound and seem less valid some how if it takes a third party to probe them out of you. He said it was too stressful trying to keep up with my sexual needs. I wasn't even in my peak back then. Who knew wanting to be close with you partner once a week was asking too much. He said that he could see me being happy with someone else. Of course he could, I'm the glass half full kind of person - making the best of whatever life throws at me, always looking for a reason to be happy. He said, "I know you don't love me or you would have already let me go." What kind of crap is that? I didn't even know he was unhappy with his life, until he moved out. To share any of those reason with someone who asks "why did you get divorced?" It’s too painful, too shameful, empty of real reason and always followed by more questions.
I have to find a way to protect myself from the hurt, and humiliation of being left. If only there where one thing I could say that would deflect all this back on him to some how make me feel better. It is a lie, but it works.
The answer to the hardest question, "Why did you get divorced?"
He decided he is gay.

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